Divorce a Life Changing Experience

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Divorce: a personal life changing experience

With this ring I thee wed…. For better or worse, for richer or poorer…. Traditionally, two people speak these words on their wedding day, the day that two become one, the day that two people begin a life together and share an unbreakable union. This may be so in some cases but not all. Divorce among Americans is rampant. In society today divorces are as common as marriages themselves. Couples meet, date, fall in love, marry, and have children and then one day: Wham! Something is just not right with the relationship anymore, so they opt for the easy way out, the big "D". They get a divorce, is this really the easy way? The legalities and dissolution of the union may be easy and …show more content…

People who are not from broken homes or do not have first hand experience with divorce have no idea what it does to a child. The sense of failure that a child feels is the most confusing emotion. Why does a child feel like he or she has failed at something? I don't know, I just know that you feel it. Maybe it is because almost everyone else has two parents present in the home and you think that you failed in your role as child by not being able to maintain that structure in your home. I see this behavior in my son sometimes. He suppresses feelings a lot of time for fear that he might say or do something that will send me running if he says the wrong thing. He blames himself a lot of times when he shouldn't. However, I am able to help him express his feelings without those fears thanks to my experience.
Another emotion that follows you for a lifetime is the way you always feel if you do something special for one parent or spend to much time with one parent then the other one is going to think that you love that parent more. Also, if you have a better relationship with one than the other you can feel the resentment towards you from the opposing parent. Far to often I catch my son wanting to share an exciting experience he shared with his dad with me and he hesitates for fear that it might hurt

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