Conflict essay: the relationship wish
Nicole Robinson (davawna Davis) george mason university

It is a fact that a lot of people would do anything to avoid a conflict. The truth is that no matter how we try avoiding a conflict, it still exists. It states in the book (Devito, 2010-2011,p.278) that “conflict is a part of every interpersonal relationship”, it is unheard of to have relationship without having some type of conflict, but the key to it is how it is handled. A conflict in a relationship can either make or break your relationship. If it is still a little skeptical on how this is true here is an example. My boyfriend did not like to talk to me about what would bother him, especially when it would deal with me. That would …show more content…

The way we decide to handle a conflict has some way of consequences. A well known phrase is “you made your bed, now you have to lie in it.” This is a good way of explaining the fourth principle of conflict. The fourth principle of conflict is that conflict styles have consequences. (Devito, 2010-2011) The book discusses four different consequences resulting of a conflict. When “Aaron” and I had our escalated argument he used his power in telling me he did not want to take me to the prom. It was in two weeks, and he knew that I did not want to go with anyone else. So to just have this end I tried accommodating his ego and I just apologized for what I said without even explaining the real truth behind my words. The whole time I spoke I was just saying “I lose, you win” (Devito, 2009-2010) without even saying the words. That may have worked for him but it just gave him more reason to think he was wearing the pants in our relationship and I did not like that. I started out with the avoiding style, thinking that if no one wins then everything will be good but it was not working out for me either. The last principle of conflict is that conflict can be influenced by culture.(Devito, 2010-2011) “Aaron” and I both came from a single parent home, we both